Happy Easter and Happy Spring! I hope it is warm and sunny where you are and you got lots of treats from the bunny. Today I have a very special post for you, it’s from a friend I met online when I shared my grownup Christmas wish just a few months ago. That wish is to have a family. It’s a personal and emotional wish for me and Mr. Decor Adventures, especially after we lost a pregnancy and now have a little one waiting for us up in heaven.
Lauren was a reader who left me a comment on that post, and she was kind enough to tell me about her story and wishes for a family too. This week is National Infertility Awareness Week and Lauren gathered up more than 20 bloggers who are brave enough to share their dreams and journey of having a family. You can see the links for all of them on Lauren’s blog here.
Infertility is defined as the inability to conceive or carry a pregnancy to term after 12 months of trying to conceive. If you are over the age of 35, the time of trying to conceive is reduced to 6 months.
Most people think that when you grown up, find the love of your life and get married that having a family will happen naturally, and without much second thought. But for about 1 in 8-10 couples, that just isn’t true. Our hope is that this post will help more people understand the struggles and challenges that many couples go through. Struggles that are emotional, financial, spiritual, and difficult in many ways. “When are you having kids?” is not the well-intentioned question you might think it is. If you know someone who is dealing with pregnancy loss or infertility, maybe some of these stories will help us all understand each other just a little bit better.
And without more rambling from me, please welcome Lauren!
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There’s a solid chance that if you are reading this you’re a fan of home decor blogs. Jessica excels at writing phenomenal blogs about creative DIY projects, furniture makeovers, and home improvement tips. I remember finding her blog almost four years ago when my husband and I had just gotten engaged.
I had started a blog myself, and I was instantly sucked into the words she wrote. I wasn’t a homeowner, but have always loved them, and knew that I’d own one myself someday. I grew up in an old home for a good portion of my younger years. It was even more special because it was also the same house my dad grew up in. When he was younger, his mom (my grandma) operated her antique shop out of their home, and my dad often recalls antique dealers and collectors coming in and out of his home. It’s no wonder that I was raised to respect and love all things old and vintage. I like to joke that my family was into vintage, antique style long before the craze began.
My blog has gone through a few stages since starting it. I started out sharing about the process of planning our wedding on my family’s farm. From there I wrote about life as newlywed, and adjusting to my new role as wife. It was around then that I began connecting with several fellow Minnesota bloggers on and offline, and felt comfortable enough to share the new, undesired journey my husband, Jesse and I found ourselves on.
We wanted a family, but it just wasn’t happening.
It had been a little less than a year of trying when we decided to go to the doctor to have ourselves checked out. It was there that it was discovered that one of us was broken, and we were told our road to a baby was going to take a little longer, and a heck of a lot more money than we were hoping.
It’s been over two years now, and those baby dreams have still not come true. I’ve gone from sad, to angry, to hopeful, to angry and sad again. It’s been a roller coaster, but I can confidently say that I am now at a place of peace most days. My heart still longs for the day where I am promoted to the one job I’ve always wanted, but until I get to proudly wear my mom hat, I plan to to use my voice and blog to advocate for and support other people who find themselves in this same tough place.
In addition to providing hope and attempting to make you laugh, I want to put a face to infertility. We are the one in eight. One in eight represents a lot of people. You yourself may be dealing with it, or perhaps your sister, co-worker, or friend is. The right words of support may not come easily so I encourage you to check out this link if you’re at a loss for what to say or what not to say when supporting someone who is experiencing infertility.
Today kicks off Resolve’s National Infertility Awareness Week. Resolve is an amazing non-profit organization with a main goal of improving the lives of men and women living with infertility. This year is extra special as they are commemorating 25 years of awareness and support to the infertility community. The theme is resolve to know more.
Jessica is one of more than twenty bloggers who is allowing that to happen by opening up her blog to someone who has, or is experiencing infertility. I am so thankful she is giving me this outlet to share our story with you. I feel so fortunate that in the midst of something horrible, I have an amazing community of people that I am able to connect with. If you find yourself relating to this, please know there is nothing to be ashamed of. You are not alone. This community welcomes you, and will love and support you through this journey. I am here. Think of this as a virtual hug from someone who cares.
And just one more bit o’ fun news before I sign off. Feel free to swing by my blog in the next few weeks as Jesse and I embark on the very exciting and new journey of homeownership! We are closing on a house in a few weeks (if all goes as planned), and it’s not just any house. It’s a near 2000 square foot, 1892 charmer that sits right in the heart of my fair state’s capitol city. We are beyond excited to begin making the home of our dreams. I will by no means be able to provide you with the same stellar advice and skills as Jessica, but I can promise that you’ll get a good laugh or eight as two bozos attempt to maintain and manage their first home.
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Thanks so much Lauren and Jesse for sharing your story. Before I go I want to tell you about Lauren’s ety shop, J Baby Rags. Lauren makes baby burp cloths and accessories to raise money to reach some of her and Jesse’s goals in expanding their family through IVF. If you need a baby gift for yourself, or a shower or just for a friend for fun, please visit her shop! And for every purchase she donates one of her products to a family in Minnesota providing foster care. The items are adorable, look at the cute modern prints!
And please come back tomorrow, I’ll have a DIY lighting project just for you and Tuesday will feature a coffee maker giveaway!